How to Quit Your Job; A 10 Step Process

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I’ve brought you all here today to talk to you about something I’m getting rather good at. Within the last year and a half I have quit three jobs. I have marched into my boss’ office, always full of nerves and doubts, and said those two scary, but liberating words, “I quit.” 

With each job I quit, the fear and level of discomfort has never changed, but I feel like I’ve become a pro at quitting professionally, courteously and directly. Since I have acquired this new skill for myself and know how hard it can be to quit a job, I thought I’d compile a “How to Quit Your Job” post for those of you that need a little help in that department.

1. So, you’ve decided enough is enough. Maybe you’ve been walked all over one too many times. Maybe you’re just ready for something new. Either way, the first and most important thing is to stay calm. Before quitting this last job, I wanted to scream. Sometimes I wanted to throw things. DON’T. It will only cause more problems (and you’ll lose any expectation of a positive reference).

2. Pray about it. This was probably the most important thing I did before quitting each job. I felt peace about each decision I made. If you’re not into praying, meditate on it or make a pros and cons list. The most important thing is to be sure quitting is right for you and your family.

3.  Type up your two-weeks notice. While it’s not completely necessary, it’s often done as a courtesy and helps maintain your professionalism. Also, it’s pretty crucial to have a clear set of expectations in writing. At the same time, be vague. You don’t want to ramble on about how your coworkers were brats and you hated coming to work every day. State that you are leaving, that you are appreciative of the opportunities the job has afforded you, and what your official last day of work will be.

4. Practice a script. The night before I quit my job at the credit union, Karl and I went out to dinner and I practiced my quitting speech on him. It involved a lot of profanity and several peace signs (as in, I’m peacing out of this business!). We all know, my speech went nothing like that. It’s a good idea to practice a calm and collected speech, no matter how angry you are. Also, be prepared for awkward questions and rude comments.

5. In my post “How to Overcome First Day of Work Jitters” I mentioned this step. I’m repeating it here because it’s a really great confidence booster: "I know this sounds cheesy, but look yourself in the mirror and pick 3-5 adjectives you want to be and repeat them to yourself. Mine are unstoppable, courageous, and exquisite. What are yours?"

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6. Going along with the step above, it’s good to have three condensed reasons for why you are quitting. Mine were “I want to have the freedom to go to the bathroom whenever I want,” “I’m not happy in the banking industry anymore,” and “I want to find something I’m passionate about.” These all helped me to be sure of my decision and I also used them when my boss asked for specific reasons I was quitting.

7. If you are a good employee, your boss may try to guilt you into staying, offer to increase your wage, or flat out beg. Do what you feel is right. Last time I quit, I felt so guilty. I almost said, “Okay! I take it back! I’ll stay!” I’m so glad I stuck to my guns, but if you’re happy doing your job for more money or staying a few weeks longer to help train someone else, go for it. Just remember, this is your choice.

8. The day after you quit may be pretty awkward. Coworkers may ask you why. They may admit they wish they had your bravery. They also might be pissed. In this situation, it’s best to be diplomatic. Explain that it’s just time to move on. Resist the urge to bad mouth so and so and complain during your last two weeks. Doing so may get you fired, and no one wants that.

9. Work hard until the end. You don’t want anyone to think you’re trying to milk a couple of weeks’ worth of pay for doing no work. Come back from lunch on time. Continue to do your very best. This will go really far in insuring you get a good reference.

10. Lastly, there are probably going to be times when you feel guilty or second guess your decision to leave. Just remember that you decide what’s best for you. It may seem hard and/or scary to imagine a life without this coworker or that customer, but just because you’re quitting, doesn’t mean you have to stop being friends. Look forward to the future and the life that lay ahead of you. You are so brave and the world is your oyster!

In a nutshell, quitting a job is never easy. It’s emotionally taxing and you may take a hit to your self-esteem, but always remember your three reasons from step 6. Good luck in your endeavors, whatever they may be!